I Understand Your Pain

Divorce isn’t easy.  Neither are the steps leading up to it, or the process of trying to save your marriage so you don’t have to go through a breakup.  I understand your fear – the fear of losing everything, of being alone, and even the fear of your life spinning out of control.  I also understand your difficult emotions –  like anger, frustration, and resentment!

I was married for 23 years and had two children when my entire life was ripped out from under me.  I had a beautiful home and a life filled with friends and family.

At the time my marriage ended, I didn’t think I would ever be happy again, but I am!

My Personal Journey

Through childhood abuse and neglect, I learned to believe that I wasn’t important and that what I wanted didn’t matter.  Over time, all the early experiences of my life led me to believe that I wasn’t worthy of love or the quality relationships I so badly wanted.  I grew into adulthood believing that my value was in caring for the well-being of others.  The problem?  I forgot to care for myself and my own needs and desires.  Sound familiar?

IMG_0049When I got married and started my own family, I put a white-picket fence in my back yard as a symbol of the idealistic family I dreamed about.  From the very onset of my relationship with my husband, I gave pieces of myself away.  I spent years not understanding why I was crying so much, but years later I realized I was living a delusional fantasy that someday things would get better, someday my marriage would fulfill me, someday I would be happy.  Someday never happened; instead, my feelings turned to anger and resentment and each day became harder to cope with a marriage that lacked intimacy and true partnership.

The breaking point came when I could no longer deny how unhappy I was in my marriage.  I had tried everything – I even tried to change my husband to get him to realize what was missing and that our relationship was worth saving.  The day I packed my bags was the day I left a trail of destruction – hurting the very people I loved the most and that brought me the most joy – my children.

Divorce as a Catalyst!

Despite the pain and confusion I experienced, I have great news for you!  I am stronger now than ever before.  Remember when I said I didn’t know if I could find happiness again?  Well, I did!  and you can too.  It took time and effort – and invaluable teachings and tools, but I have rebuilt my entire life.  More than anything, I want this for you too!

Reclaim Yourself

It’s time for you to start living again.  There is no better time to start reconnecting with yourself and rediscovering the things that are most important to you.  That career you put down?  Pick it up again!  Those emotions you spent years suppressing?  Learn to feel and be again.  Reclaiming yourself, whether you stay married or get divorced begins with learning to be more compassionate with yourself.  I am here to help you with this transition.

I Stand With You & For You

As a Master Certified Life Coach and expert writer for YourTango.com, a leading relationship website, my work is inspired by thought leaders and coaches such as Debbie Ford.  Through the use of proven tools and techniques and processes like Spiritual Divorce, I have been helping women, just like you, reclaim their lives since 2006.

I am committed to supporting, directing, and empowering you to use the relationship challenge you are currently experiencing as a catalyst to live an authentic and fully expressed life.  I am dedicated to helping you improve the quality of ALL your relationships so that you experience more meaning and fulfillment.  Consider me your personal cheerleader, as well as your biggest supporter.

Living A Life I Love

Leila-Salmon-FishingWBWhen I am not doing the work I love and cherish, you will find me living life to the fullest.  I enjoy participating in all the activities that bring me joy.  Some of these pastimes include hiking, canoeing, and fishing.  I am reconnecting with my family and feel immensely equipped to meet the struggles and successes of being a mother.  I cherish my friends and  continue to deepen my connections.  My spiritual practice is becoming an integral a part of who I am and spending time each day in meditation helps me connect to what is most important to me.

I love going to live concerts to see powerful women artists like Storm Large and Zapparella.  On my best days, you will find me at the beach with my butt in the sand “resting” my body to the endless lapping of water at my feet.  Other times you might find me knitting or crocheting, or even at a yard sale looking for treasures.  I love hosting intimate dinner parties and gathering people together in community.

My newest passion is traveling the world.  I have been fortunate to visit Russia, Poland, Ukraine, and Budapest.  I also love traveling with Wild Planet Adventures for wildlife adventures!  I have been to Thailand where, in addition to the incredible wildlife viewing and conscious raising activities like visiting a tiger rescue sanctuary, we took it upon ourselves to clean multiple bags of trash off an uninhabited beach.  I traveled with Wild Planet to Africa on a 21-day safari and tracked leopard by foot, watched the giraffes mate, and fell asleep to the incessant laughing of thousands of hippos – it’s contagious.  My most recent trip was to Borneo where I wore leech socks everyday and found my new favorite primate – the proboscis monkey.  Wow!  Just a few short years ago, I never thought all this was possible, but my life is becoming more ideal every day!

Heal Your Heart.  Regain Your Power.

Personally

Trained by

Katherine Woodward Thomas

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NY Times Bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling: 5-Steps to Living Happily Even After and author of Calling in “The One” 

I completed my internship for my MSW under Katherine’s expert guidance and have been her program manager for her coaches training programs since May 2015

Marci Shimoff 

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Marci Shimoff 2012 photo[9]“Leila is the perfect collaborative partner to guide you back to a happy open heart.” ~Marci Shimoff, NY Times best selling author and teacher in The Secret.

Personally Trained

by Debbie Ford

Spiritual-Divorce-DebbieFordI started my coaching career under the late Debbie Ford’s guidance in 2006.  I assisted her at her Shadow Process workshops and served as a Mentor Coach for her coaches training programs.  I was personally trained by her in Spiritual Divorce and Best Year of Your Live and participated in her leadership program.

MSW with honors.